William A. Schiemann

Five Secrets Fulfilled People Use Everyday

Are there real tricks to becoming fulfilled in life? You bet. My research and that of others suggests that there are key street-smart actions that those who are most fulfilled use every day. I interviewed over 100 successful people – some who were fulfilled and others who were not – to understand why success does not always bring about fulfillment. There was amazing convergence around several things that fulfilled people do. Here are the top five:

  1. Have strong values – and stick with them. Does your work environment, family and friends allow you to behave consistent with your values? Having to behave contrary with your values can be debilitating.
  2. Practice resilience. The ability to face adversity and bounce back. One part of resilience is having grit, a firmness of character, or as psychologist Angela Duckworth describes it based on her studies, the “perseverance and passion for long-term goals.” It was a rare person who could pursue their long-term goals without setbacks in their lives – divorces, failed promotions, cancer, family members coming off the rails. Many people who I knew to be successful in their professional lives had many hidden stories of failures and bounce backs. They used a variety of approaches to get around those adversities that you can borrow in your own life, such as building a great support network of friends, or family that can support you as you plough through challenges. Those who had developed mentors found them particularly helpful. Some dug deep into their long-term vision or spirituality to help them overcome setbacks. We all have setbacks, it’s how you get up that makes the difference.
  3. Take risks. A really interesting finding in my research is the quantity of people who either took risks and vouched that those risks stretched them and enabled them to reach new heights, or those who regretted not taking more risks. It appears that wisdom brings with it perspective. What appeared to be huge risks to many when they were young, now seems insignificant in hindsight. Although hindsight is often 20-20, it would be too easy to dismiss this advice simply as sages looking through the rear view mirror. Instead, many felt so strongly about this that they have gone overboard in encouraging their children to take more risks. This is one of the most difficult lessons in the art of fulfillment, but you can help yourself by have a longer term vision, with many intermediate lighthouse goals along the way – stepping stones – that allow you to see the big picture. Imminent risks are often much less threatening when viewing the big picture. Another key is talking to those who have faced those risks before, often providing sage advice that allows one to reduce the fear and anxiety that comes with perceived risk.
  4. Find a good network. One of the most frequent pieces of advice among our sages was taking time to build networks. One out-of-work pharmaceutical executive told me that the only time he networks is when he is out of work, lamenting that he has not learned from past mistakes. It takes so much longer to reconnect with people and build trust, he shared. This is an increasing challenge to those who are overloaded at work today. Many interviewees commented that time pressures reduced their attendance at meetings outside work, limited hobby and family time, and reduced the time to simply keep up with friends and professional colleagues on Facebook or Linked-In. Most realized that having a good network is a key skill, particularly in the world we live in where networks and connections are increasing key to scoring the next great job, or finding a life partner or getting into the right school. If you are not building your network continuously, you are falling behind.
  5. Give back. An often forgotten element that brought fulfillment to many was giving back. Sharing your skills and experiences with others can bring an incredible sense of fulfillment when you see what it can do for others. I began volunteering for not-for-profits later in life and I can attest that it has been one of the most rewarding experiences. One group I encountered during my investigations was Rosie’s kids—a program to help inner city kids go ahead in life by teaching them stage skills – dancing and singings their hearts away. I first heard the backstory of so many of the disadvantaged kids – crack houses, abusive parent, abandoned, homeless – and then I saw these kids performing with huge smiles on their faces—and one child summed it up for me when I spoke with him at the end. He said that he was excited about his future – his chances. And with a tear in my eye, I realized that one of our greatest sources of fulfillment is enabled others to become fulfilled.

Take a moment to think about your own fulfillment. Do you have a vision, are you taking enough risks, have you built the networks to help you during difficult setbacks, and are you giving back to others more in need? Try it. I think you will find yourself more fulfilled.


About the Author

William A. SchiemannWilliam A. Schiemann, Ph.D. is CEO of Metrus Group. He is a thought leader in human resources, employee engagement, and fulfillment and author of Fulfilled! Critical Choices: Work, Home, Life, scheduled to be released October 1, 2016. For more information follow Dr. Schiemann on Twitter, @wschiemann and connect with him on LinkedIn at www.linkedin.com/in/wmschiemann.

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Corporate Cultures – Common Cultural Evaluation Misperceptions

StrategyDriven Corporate Cultures ArticleIn identifying organizationally shared values and beliefs, there are several common misperceptions that result in an invalid understanding of the actual corporate culture. These misinterpretations should be guarded against as cultural understanding serves as a foundation for many of management’s decisions.


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Shainaz Firfiray

Building a positive work-life culture

Although work-life balance policies are meant to acknowledge the realities faced by dual earner families, existing workplace norms often stigmatize the use of such policies. While employers have started to offer several policies that facilitate better work-life balance, there is scant evidence that they are helping organisations foster a healthier work-life culture. There is also low utilization of such policies despite the widespread demand for such flexibility. The pressure to work long hours along with the career penalties associated with the use of work-life policies are creating workplace cultures where employees have limited choices in terms of managing their work and non-work demands.

Transforming the culture of an organisation to one that encourages a better work-life balance is often very challenging. Although it is debatable whether organisations have a responsibility for work-life balance, evidence suggests that providing support for work-life issues has significant payoffs for the employment relationship. Frequently organisations may offer a range of work-life policies but if not properly implemented these policies may fail to facilitate better work-life reconciliation.

Often effective policy implementation requires a transformation of the workplace culture and underlying assumptions about how work should be organised and how employee performance should be evaluated. Cultures that emphasize long working hours as a symbol of commitment frequently hinder employees from making use of work-life policies. In several organisations, managers focus on rewarding “face-time” rather than actual performance. When managers have subordinates who face work-life conflicts, the best approach is to direct their efforts toward evaluating actual performance rather than presenteeism or “face-time”. Effective role-modeling by leaders who are aware of the importance of work-life balance may also help in building a culture that champions reconciliation of work and nonwork lives while reducing feelings of inadequacies among workers who utilize work-life practices. Likewise, employees should also be encouraged to raise nonwork issues with their managers and should be assured that their employer does not expect them to subordinate their personal or family roles while prioritizing their work roles. Such a culture may allay worker fears about the negative career consequences of addressing work-life issues and also result in a favorable image of their employer as one that cares about their well-being.


About the Author

Shainaz FirfirayShainaz Firfiray is an assistant professor in the Organisation and Human Resource Management Group at Warwick Business School. She received her PhD in management at IE Business School, Spain. Her research interests include work-life balance, social identity, and workplace diversity.

Tony J. Selimi

How to Fast-track and Accelerate Your Human Potential Beyond Perceived Limits

What if through every struggle, adversity, illness or ending in your life you adopted a new, simple, and yet a very powerful tool that helps you identify the root cause of your problems, fears, and disempowered mental states that make you feel as if you are broken and in need of a “fix”?

What if you discovered that by design you were built with a powerful ALARM that alerts you each time you are not aligned to your true essence? What if this inbuilt security system is what activates your switch that turns on your inner light, puts you back on track to accelerate your human potential, and supports you to achieve outcomes that go way beyond your expectations? What miracles would you then create in your life?

Since I can remember, I was curious to know why some people have it all and others spend their entire life suffering, struggling, and make ends meet. I wanted to know why some people die young and others live healthy until very old age. Why some people find it easy to achieve their dreams, heal fast, and easily attract opportunities in their lives and yet others were consumed by their negative self-talk, illness, and blaming others for their misfortune.

By design we are extraordinary, our evolutionary advantage is our brain and our ability to communicate, plan, reason and work together, our survival depends on our collective ability and not on our individual mind. We are connected across all of live spans to one another, through invisible forces that bind us.

To stay present in the midst of adversity, it helps to be deeply rooted within ourselves; otherwise, the mind and our emotions, which have incredible momentum, will drag us into the deepest caves of the wretched solitude along like a wild and uncontrollable river.

I trust by now I have helped you awaken your curiosity and are asking what is it that you can do to accelerate your human potential and achieve extraordinary things in your life.

There are many ways you can do this, what I would like to share with you is the five key principles of TJS Evolutionary Method that I use daily to help my clients that you too can use on your journey to creating and living an extraordinary life.

  1. Acknowledge that support and challenge will always be part of your life. To do that you need first and foremost become aware of the form in which support shows when you are challenged and the form in which the challenge is present when you feel supported.
  2. Question the Rules that hold you back from honouring the infinite wisdom of love and from being centred in your heart. Develop a bold and balanced vision of yourself and of the future of humanity: Cut through to the root of exactly what it is that you want and find the most optimal path to getting there.
  3. Thrive to achieve self-actualisation by focusing inwardly, boosting your mental, physical, emotional and etheric body with knowledge and the wisdom required to immunize itself against many of the life adversities that may come your way. Combine Science and Spirituality to evolve your being.
  4. Make a conscious choice to turn any life struggle that you may be experiencing into seeds of gratitude and fuel for love, great health, and heart based living.
  5. Get connected and pave the way for you to unlock, listen, and use your hearts intelligence to create life miracles, a global coherence that shifts the evolution of mankind towards a more balanced, collaborative and peaceful world.

Spirit-based principles and practical, do-them-in-the-moment tools shared in both books are there to help you bring into your own life the hidden miracles of your true essence, equilibrate your mind and amplify your intuition and rebalance your inner being that is required for you to be extraordinary.

Lastly, remember, you are the call for love, the solutions people need to redefine themselves in the face of life’s greatest challenges and the light they need to help them get on a path that shifts them towards love, wisdom, wealth and making a greater impact in the world.

Use these five vital principles daily, they will help you build the skills, tools and the knowledge required to overcome the physical ramifications of loneliness, accelerate your human growth, and help you live an epic life.


About the Author

Tony J. SelimiTony J. Selimi is internationally known as a human behavior, cognition and emotional intelligence expert. He is a keynote speaker, entrepreneur and the creator of the TJS Evolutionary Method. Tony is an award-winning and international best-selling author of A Path to Wisdom – How to Live a Balanced, Healthy and Peaceful Life and Loneliness: The Virus of the Modern Age. He teaches people the tools and the knowledge required to face life’s greatest adversity head on and live life in a specific state of self-mastery that helps them accelerate their human growth, potential and impact. For more information, visit www.tonyselimi.com.

John Montana

When is Internet Marketing Worthwhile?

Generally, the answer to this question is “always”, but the answer is much more involved. Sure Internet marketing is worthwhile but as with any type of marketing it is only worthwhile if it is done well. For example, you can spend thousands of dollars on a television marketing campaign but if no one sees your commercials or your commercials do not reach your target audience and generate sales, the advertising and the money that you spent was a waste of time and effort. So perhaps a more appropriate answer to this question would be that Internet marketing is worthwhile when it works. This is a rather vague statement, I know. But I will try to explain what I mean further and show you how you can make Internet marketing work for your business.

One of the most basic and most important principles of marketing is to make sure you reach your target audience. This is important because your target audience are the people who are most likely going to be interested in purchasing your products or services. It is much easier to sell your products or services to those who already have an interest in the products and services you have to offer. Much easier than it is to convince those who are not interested in your products or services at all. As an example consider a business who sells fishing rods. You will want to market your products to those who enjoy fishing either competitively or as a leisure activity because among this audience you are likely to find people who may be interested in purchasing a new fishing rod. It would make sense to place an advertisement for your business on a website selling bait and tackle or a website which organizes fishing trips in exotic locations. Conversely it would not make sense to place your advertisement on a website selling telescopes because you are not likely to reach a large target audience here. There may be some stargazers with an interest in fishing but your advertising dollars and efforts would be better spent placing advertisements with websites more closely related to your business.

Another factor to consider when purchasing advertising space on another Internet website is traffic the amount of traffic the other website receives. This is significant because you want to place your advertisement on a website which is closely related to your own and likely to attract a similar audience but you also want your advertisement to receive a large amount of attention. For this reason, it is important for your advertisement to appear on a website which receives a great amount of traffic each month. This will help to ensure your business is getting a great deal of exposure through this advertising.

When it comes to Internet advertising, there is a fine line between great advertising and spam. Some business owners get carried away trying to get as much exposure as possible and can sometimes go overboard and wind up being considered spam. Internet users who see your advertisement in a couple of key locations will likely notice the advertisement and may be compelled to visit your website immediately or may keep your website in mind for future use. However, Internet users who see your advertisement everywhere they look are likely to view your advertisement as spam. This can be harmful because they are not likely to visit your website because they expect it to not be worthwhile.

In any Internet marketing campaign, it is important to carefully monitor the results of your marketing efforts and make changes to your campaign as necessary. This is important because you want to make sure your marketing efforts are paying off and the best way to do this is to evaluate the results of your advertising carefully. One way to do this is to place specially coding in each one of your advertisements so you will know which advertisements are generating business for you and which ones are not. You can use this information to decide whether you should modify the ineffective website or stop running these advertisements. If you decide to modify these ads, you will want to continue to monitor the results to determine whether or not the changes made the advertisements more effective.

Good luck and happy advertising!


About the Author

John MontanaJohn Montana has been a successful salesman since 1990. He currently lives with his wife and travels between Chicago and Los Angeles. He created his site – ABMSNOW to offer tips and ideas on how to become better at selling… no matter what your product is.